Reaching out - Issue #14


Hey guys, I hope you enjoyed last week’s Madness. There’s a lot more in store this week.


Good morning guys,

I wanted to share a learning moment from last weekend. I figured this could help those who feel restricted to make that initial move.

There was a growth lesson that I had acquired when I scheduled a call to speak with an old acquaintance. I shall refer to her as C.

Let me give you the backstory to C and I, we met back in 2016, worked together close to two years and during that time I considered us friends, which eventually led us to travel together. Then, after coming back from travelling, we fell in a downward spiral in a matter of months.

Fast forward to 2020; I did the most grown-up thing I could think off. I reached out to her I wrote an email and scheduled in a call last weekend at 7:00 pm. Hoping she would be open to a discussion on why we went to a downward spiral, the duration of our conversation lasted around 3 hours. We confabulated on various topics like life advice, BLM - the struggle of facing racism, on educating oneself about racism - shared our anecdotal experiences, we spoke about our side hustle and finally, dating advice. And, in the moment of stalling, I buckled up the courage to discuss the matter at hand. Weirdly, enough she was stumped because she didn’t know why we fell out. Knowing we didn’t make any progress on the subject at hand, it was nice to hear from her and I’m sure given the opportunity we will hang out after COVID-19.

At the end of the call, I had a eureka moment I realised taking the initial step to reach out and creating an environment of truce was my way appreciating our friendship. It had me thinking about the idea of regret minimisation framework as initially stated by Jeff Bezos - I would have lived with the regret if I did not try.

That’s all for this week. I hope you guys have an awesome day.

Yours truly,

Abhishek

Stuff I enjoyed from last week

  1. Youtube Video - How to crush it on Twitter: David Perell and David Matthew Kobach Workshop, an informative outlook on purpose your tweets to provide value and usefulness to the general audience. The workshop provides tips and insights into bettering your Twitter game!

  2. Article - Don’t kill Time, the article was a reminder, that time is a precious commodity not to be wasted on non-essential activities.

  3. Question I’m pondering on - What process or processes that matter to you right now, will you carry on for the next five years?

Highlight of the week

Believe Big. The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief. Think little goals and expect little achievements. Think big goals and win big success. Remember this, too! Big ideas and big plans are often easier—certainly no more difficult—than small ideas and small plans.

The magic of thinking Big - David J. Schwartz

the well-lived life is granted to those who shatter the chains of nihilism, and instead see both work and leisure time as gifts to embrace. Sloth is evil, for time is the very essence of life, and only in the afterlife does the clock stop ticking.

David Perell - Don’t Kill Time

Blog Post

Reduction steps of habit - A method I have developed to better manage our habits within the scope of our day. Included is a working template for you folks to consider.

I would love to get your feedback on this :)

Video

Favourite (idea/concept/principle): Parkinson's Law

Secondary Brain

Part 2: Using Notion as a Beginner